What holds us back from growth and change?
I first began to appreciate the value of the role self-worth plays in unlocking personal power as I faced up to a debilitating addiction in 2006. I was drowning in feelings of intense shame and self-loathing that had to be addressed before I could move into recovery, regroup, and contribute to the world as my full self again.
I’m delighted to say that committing myself to this goal changed everything in my life.
In the many years since, in my work as a Consultant, Business Mentor and Speaker, I noticed that, no matter how talented the individual, how valuable their work, there were still many people who procrastinated and self-sabotaged, holding themselves back from all they could be.
As I dug below the surface I found the common threads were a lack of self-belief, a sense of being an imposter, a feeling that they, or their ideas, did not really “measure up”, that they were not enough. They were disconnected from their own, unquestionable self-worth, as I had been.
For some time I simply incorporated self-worth reconnection strategies into my business mentoring but it soon became apparent that there was a greater need for this work and thus, the Centre for Self Worth was founded in 2020.
Traditional approaches to helping individuals to thrive have focused on improving self-esteem to build confidence and self-efficacy. But this philosophy incorporates reliance on external validation, a temporary fix that demands constant top-ups, a distracting and draining dance.
In contrast, utilising a self-worth approach, where you develop an unconditional loyalty, friendship and a strong internal support foundation is enduring and sustainable, providing an infinitely stronger base for growth, innovation and focus.
Common symptoms seen when self-worth is absent
Actions and experiences
- Constantly seeking to prove your credibility (e.g. getting “just one more” qualification).
- Boisterous, talking all the time, needing to be the centre of attention.
- Doing, doing… over-servicing, not being able to pause or rest
- Significant procrastination: unable to take action, feeling drained and flat.
- Stuck in the Comparison Trap – constantly feeling less than or better than others.
- Finding it difficult to charge for your services at a market rate
- A lack of discernment – which sees you pursuing things you don’t really want.
- Stifled by perfectionism, unable to share your ideas with the world
- Seeking constant external validation for your ideas and work
Feelings and emotions
- A demanding and critical inner voice that makes you feel inadequate
- Constantly trying to impress other people to gain their approval or keep them happy
- Protracted periods of feeling sad, resigned or hopeless for no apparent reason
- Unmotivated – a disconnection from a sense of purpose or personal vision
- Susceptible to Impostor syndrome – doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud
- Feeling deeply wounded by setbacks, rejection or criticism, holding grudges
- A tendency towards victimhood, blaming others and bad luck for your circumstances
- Feeling as though you do not belong, as though you are on the fringes and not truly included
The Self-Worth Trilogy
I developed The Self-Worth Trilogy to share the foundational ideas that had first helped me connect with the self-worth approach. I introduced this model into my business mentoring as I created a unique blend of strategy and self-worth under the “Your Next Chapter” arm of my business.
Over time, this model has been expanded from my research and studies in neuroscience, positive psychology, ACT and more. My appointment as an Associate of the Global Self Worth Academy, based in Portugal, has allowed me to exchange ideas with colleagues as I developed practises, thinking shifts and other tools of a self-worth approach to leadership, team building, entrepreneurship and personal growth. The Self-Worth Continuum, an orientation tool, is the result.
The Self-Worth Continuum
The focus of The Centre for Self-Worth is to educate and empower individuals, leaders and organisations with the self-worth approach as a sustainable avenue to maximising potential.
Our workshops and programs have resilience building at their core, empowering individuals with the insight to quickly recognise when they've lost their connection to self-worth and the tools to bounce back when they encounter the inevitable curveballs thrown by of our complex, uncertain, and demanding world.
We believe before we can lead others, before we can build businesses, before we can grow and expand into our full personal power, we need to know and own our own uniqueness.
It’s never a question of are you worthy, it’s only ever how will you express your worth.
Warmly,
Business Mentor, Author and Self-Worth Educator
Client feedback
Kate Riordan
PROCESS IMPROVEMENT CONSULTANT
I didn’t expect the level of self-knowledge I gained. I learnt so much about the beliefs that were holding me back, the mindset shifts I need to make and simple yet powerful tools to support me on my journey. Having Angela on my support team made it seem possible. She dealt with every challenge that arose with such heartfelt, wise counsel – she came into my life at a time when I thought it might be all too hard.
Rabia Dhody
HRMP, MBA PRINCIPAL OD CONSULTANT TAFE SA
The topic of lack of Self-worth has plagued many people over the years and I felt the pull to have her shine her light and learnings around this for our team. The session was so useful – Angela did not only impact the work space, she also covered their areas of life beyond work.
Linley Cornish
I ‘awoke’ one morning with a deep sense of needing change; the business I had, whilst reasonably successful, was no longer invigorating, there was an absence of passion and alignment with what I love to do.
This is when my awareness of Angela was piqued, and her offering to challenge my current thinking, and to build a business and life that I have dreamed of.
Wendy Kendall
PSYCHOLOGIST
Angela is firstly full of integrity when you work with her. I never got the sense that she was anything but a wholehearted supporter of me as an individual. There aren’t any hidden sides to Angela when you’re working with her. The only surprises you get are good ones!
She is generous in spirit and in her considerable knowledge of what it takes to bring the business to life and grow it to maturity and beyond. Successes start to mount rapidly after working with her!
Melanie Curry
DAVIS AUTISM
When I reached out to Angela for support, I was, quite unexpectedly, promoted to the position of CEO of the Ron Davis Autism Foundation. I felt like I was bobbing around in a vast ocean, focusing all of my energy simply on keeping afloat. I now feel like I am in the boat, at the helm, steering it in a purposeful and exciting direction, with a new level of confidence and self-belief.