What holds us back from growth and change?
I first began to appreciate the value of the role self-worth plays in unlocking personal power as I faced up to a debilitating addiction in 2006. I was drowning in feelings of intense shame and self-loathing that had to be addressed before I could recover, regroup, and contribute to the world as my full self again.
I’m delighted to say that committing myself to this goal changed everything in my life.
In the many years since, in my work as a Consultant and Business Mentor I noticed that, no matter how talented the individual, how valuable their work, there were still many people who procrastinated and self-sabotaged, holding themselves back from all they could be.
As I dug below the surface I found the common threads were a lack of self-belief, constant comparison, a sense of being an imposter, a feeling that they, or their ideas, did not really “measure up”, that they were not enough.
Step into your Zone of Genius
When we feel this way, we remain stuck in our zone of competence, and even our zone of excellence, but we rarely experience living and working in our zone of genius, contributing to the world at 100% of our potential.
In my experience, a deep connection to our unique, innate self-worth throws opens the door to this opportunity and the Centre for Self-Worth was created to provide inspiration, encouragement and practical guidance to people who want to unlock their more in their work, business, teams, communities, and relationships – across all of the life domains.
Angela Raspass,
Founder of the CFSW
Traditional approaches to helping people to thrive have focused on improving self-esteem to build confidence and self-efficacy. This philosophy builds reliance on external validation, a temporary fix that demands constant top-ups, a distracting and draining dance.
In contrast, utilising a self-worth approach, where you develop an unconditional loyalty, friendship and a strong internal support foundation is enduring and sustainable, providing an infinitely stronger base for growth, innovation and focus.
Common symptoms seen when self-worth is low
Actions and experiences
- Constantly seeking to prove your credibility (e.g. getting “just one more” qualification).
- Boisterous, talking all the time, needing to be the centre of attention.
- Doing, doing… over-servicing, not being able to pause or rest
- Significant procrastination: unable to take action, feeling drained and flat.
- Stuck in the Comparison Trap – constantly feeling less than or better than others.
- Finding it difficult to charge for your services at a market rate
- A lack of discernment – which sees you pursuing things you don’t really want.
- Stifled by perfectionism, unable to share your ideas with the world
- Seeking constant external validation for your ideas and work
Feelings and emotions
- A demanding and critical inner voice that makes you feel inadequate
- Constantly trying to impress other people to gain their approval or keep them happy
- Protracted periods of feeling sad, resigned or hopeless for no apparent reason
- Unmotivated – a disconnection from a sense of purpose or personal vision
- Susceptible to Impostor syndrome – doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud
- Feeling deeply wounded by setbacks, rejection or criticism, holding grudges
- A tendency towards victimhood, blaming others and bad luck for your circumstances
- Feeling as though you do not belong, as though you are on the fringes and not truly included
The Self-Worth Trilogy
I developed The Self-Worth Trilogy to share the foundational ideas that had first helped me connect with the self-worth approach. I introduced this model into my business mentoring as I created a unique blend of strategy and self-worth for my business mentoring.
Over time, this model has been expanded from my appointment as an Associate of the Global Self Worth Academy, based in Portugal, and my research and studies in Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Acceptance Commitment Training, Instinctive Drives profiling and more. The Self-Worth Continuum, an orientation tool, is one of the results of this work.
The Self-Worth Continuum
Self-worth connection is not an absolute state. It can fluctuate with your environment, mood, physical and mental well-being, oscillating from the negative states of self-loathing and self-limiting thoughts and behaviours, right through self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-belief.
It is your ability to ascertain where you are sitting at any moment in time, to recognise the inherent challenge and then quickly select and utilise the key tools, practices and skills that lift you up the continuum that is at the heart of self-worth reconnection.
The focus of The Centre for Self-Worth is to educate and empower you with the self-worth approach as a sustainable avenue to maximising potential.
Our workshops, programs and retreats have resilience building at their core, empowering you to bounce back when you encounter the inevitable curveballs thrown by of our complex, uncertain, and demanding world.
We believe before you can lead others, before you can build businesses and create communities, before you can grow and expand into your full potential, you need to recognise, own and appreciate your uniqueness.
It’s never a question of are you worthy, it’s only ever how will you express your worth.
Warmly,
Founder of The Centre For Self Worth
Client feedback
Wendy Kendall
PSYCHOLOGIST
Angela is firstly full of integrity when you work with her. I never got the sense that she was anything but a wholehearted supporter of me as an individual. There aren’t any hidden sides to Angela when you’re working with her. The only surprises you get are good ones!
She is generous in spirit and in her considerable knowledge of what it takes to bring the business to life and grow it to maturity and beyond. Successes start to mount rapidly after working with her!
Melanie Curry
DAVIS AUTISM
When I reached out to Angela for support, I was, quite unexpectedly, promoted to the position of CEO of the Ron Davis Autism Foundation. I felt like I was bobbing around in a vast ocean, focusing all of my energy simply on keeping afloat. I now feel like I am in the boat, at the helm, steering it in a purposeful and exciting direction, with a new level of confidence and self-belief.
Linley Cornish
I ‘awoke’ one morning with a deep sense of needing change; the business I had, whilst reasonably successful, was no longer invigorating, there was an absence of passion and alignment with what I love to do.
This is when my awareness of Angela was piqued, and her offering to challenge my current thinking, and to build a business and life that I have dreamed of.
Rabia Dhody
HRMP, MBA PRINCIPAL OD CONSULTANT TAFE SA
The topic of lack of Self-worth has plagued many people over the years and I felt the pull to have her shine her light and learnings around this for our team. The session was so useful – Angela did not only impact the work space, she also covered their areas of life beyond work.
Kate Riordan
PROCESS IMPROVEMENT CONSULTANT
I didn’t expect the level of self-knowledge I gained. I learnt so much about the beliefs that were holding me back, the mindset shifts I need to make and simple yet powerful tools to support me on my journey. Having Angela on my support team made it seem possible. She dealt with every challenge that arose with such heartfelt, wise counsel – she came into my life at a time when I thought it might be all too hard.